“You’ve been criticising yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens” Louise Hay.
I love that quote. It also applies to the relationship you have with yourself, but also those you have with your loved one: Criticism can sneak into your communication and destroy connection. Instead, you could foster a habit of staying curious about all the things you can appreciate about your partner daily. Next to that, if I feel criticism arising in myself, I try to figure out the silent wish or need that lies at the root of the criticism and express that instead. It’s tricky stuff to get the hang of but also so rewarding when your connection to your partner becomes more positive, safe and respectful. Photo by Teamwoodnote, sculpture by Alexander Milov